above others

dah ready ke eit? sometimes i wonder whether my friends who are getting engaged and getting married, are ready for the future that they are undertaking. maybe because i have for so long been indoctrinated by a belief that marriage is when you're done with your studies what-not etc. and maybe because even in my family, they all started getting married at the age of 24 onwards. (engagement included)

after much pemerhatian and reading (not in a creepy way, sambil-sambil je la ni) i came to a conclusion that, you are ready for it, when you are prepared to put mr Right above everything else. be it your parents, your family, your friends, your work, everything. Except of course, Allah, Rasul s.a.w and your Deen. other than that, bye bye. 

leads back to the importance of getting the right Mr Right, kan? haha.. but jodoh ketentuan Allah. yakin dengan pilihan Allah. senang. tak perlu susah-susah fikir. doakan yang terbaik, bukan yang perfect di mata kita. tapi yang terbaik untuk kita. He always Knows better. ^,^

anyway, so i think this is what women need to be prepared of. getting married is not just a lovey-dovey thing. it's a whole new world you're getting into. a whole new responsibility that you have to carry. mentaati suami. sounds simple enough. even Allah janjikan syurga kepada orang-orang yang mampu mentaati suami. but i remembered back an article i read with a friend of mine back in Dublin. a list of sins, leading to women occupying most of Jahannam. banyak sangat. but i realized that most of the sins are related to your wrong-doings towards your husband. meninggikan suara, keluar rumah tanpa izin, tidak menjaga keperluan suami.. the list is endless. kenapa ada list macam ni? because of course, they are all being done carelessly by wives all over the world. *isk isk*

mentaati suami. macam senang nak buat, tapi rupa-rupanya senang jugak untuk tak buat. maka senanglah jugak untuk 'ter'masuk dalam neraka. *nauzubillah*

"Sekiranya aku (boleh) menyuruh manusia menyembah manusia nescaya aku akan menyuruh isteri menyembah suaminya." 

hadis riwayat Abu Daud

Rasulullah s.a.w even gave this kind of analogy. this is how serious our responsibility is. but the fact that so many women failed to realize this when they decided to accept Mr Right, leads to all the careless sins that i mentioned before. of course, putting Mr Right above others is not as easy as it seems. kalau dah kene buat OT, or ade meetings what not, how can you put him above others? but Islam always have guidelines for us to carry our responsibility the right way. kan?

so i guess being ready is not when you are done with your studies, or when you are reaching the right age, or when you are a pinky finger away from the age limit of being an andartu. but it's when you're ready to carry a huge responsibility; mentaati suami. putting him above others. i think this is how i define ready. (lain orang lain definition though..)

as for now, i think i should stop thinking about this. saje je tulis this post. it crosses my mind the other day. and sementara i still dont have that kind of responsibility, i might as well should be focusing on other huge responsibilities that i already have, as;

Allah's faithful servant

a part of Rasulullah's ummat

a Muslim student

a devoted abahmama's daughter

a loving sister

ya Allah, bantulah aku menjalankan tanggungjawabku di Bumi-Mu ini. ameen (",)